A funeral program has two lives.
The first lasts about an hour. It tells guests when to stand, when to sit, and who the nervous nephew at the lectern is.
The second lasts decades. It gets tucked into a Bible, slipped into a drawer, propped against a photo on a dresser. Somebody’s granddaughter finds it in 2061 and finally learns what her great-grandmother’s maiden name was.
So it’s worth getting right. Here’s what goes in it.
The essentials
However simple the service, every program needs five things:
- Their full name, and the nickname everyone actually used
- Dates of birth and death
- A photo, the one where they look like themselves
- The date, time and place of the service
- The order of service
An 8-page program, page by page
- The cover. Photo, name, dates, and a short line: “Celebrating the life of” or “In loving memory of.”
- A poem or reading. Something they loved, or something the family needs to hear.
- Their life story. The obituary, usually with a second photo.
- The order of service.
- A page of photos. A life in six pictures, roughly in order.
- “What they loved.” A short list. Summers on the lake. Sunday bridge. Coffee, black, any time of day.
- The practical page. Pallbearers, burial, the reception, and a thank-you from the family.
- The back cover. A closing poem or prayer, and the funeral home.
A 4-page program keeps the cover, the life story, the order of service and the back. Nobody will feel shortchanged.
Sample orders of service
Every service is its own animal, so always confirm the order with your officiant or funeral director. These are common shapes to start from.
Christian funeral or memorial service
- Prelude
- Welcome and opening prayer
- Hymn
- Scripture reading
- Words of remembrance
- Eulogy
- Shared memories
- Hymn
- Closing prayer and benediction
- Recessional
Catholic funeral Mass
Here the Church sets the structure, and your parish will walk you through it. Programs usually list:
- Reception of the body and entrance hymn
- First reading, responsorial psalm and second reading, with each reader’s name
- Gospel and homily
- Prayers of the faithful
- Liturgy of the Eucharist and Communion hymn
- Final commendation
- Recessional hymn
Many parishes prefer eulogies be brief, or given at the vigil or reception instead. Ask before you print.
Jewish funeral
Jewish funerals usually happen quickly and are simple by design. A program, when there is one, might list:
- Opening words from the rabbi
- Psalm 23 or another psalm, in Hebrew and English
- Eulogy and words of remembrance
- El Malei Rachamim, the memorial prayer
- The Mourner’s Kaddish
- Details for the burial and for shiva
Flowers aren’t customary at most Jewish funerals, so families often name a charity instead. A common closing line: “May her memory be a blessing.”
Muslim funeral (janazah)
Islamic tradition calls for burial as soon as possible, and the service centers on the funeral prayer, Salat al-Janazah, usually held at the mosque after one of the daily prayers. Programs are simple when used at all, and many families prefer no photograph. A program might include:
- Gathering at the mosque and the daily prayer
- Salat al-Janazah, with the imam’s name
- Procession and burial
- Du’a at the graveside
- Details for condolence visits at the family home
Many include the verse from the Qur’an (2:156) said on hearing of a death: “Indeed, we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return.”
Celebration of life
No rules, which is both the gift and the problem.
My grandfather’s was on the beach, his favorite place. Nobody wore black and nobody left early. If that’s the spirit you’re after, here’s a loose shape that still gives people something to hold:
- A welcome
- A song that was theirs
- Their life story, read aloud
- Three or four short speakers: family, an old friend, someone from work
- An open microphone for memories (set a gentle time limit; there’s always an uncle)
- A slideshow
- A closing reading, then a toast
Printing, briefly
- Print 10 to 20 percent more programs than you expect guests. People take two. Cousins arrive unannounced.
- Ask for ivory or white cardstock, 80 to 100 lb cover weight. For an 8-page program, ask for booklet printing on 11 x 17, folded and stapled.
- Get one proof copy and check every name and date in daylight before you print the rest.
Start from a program that’s already written
Every Always Your Angel funeral program comes with these pages already written for a real service, in classic, modern and Christian styles. You personalize it right on our site, add their photo, and print in the morning. Planning a Jewish, Muslim or other service? Choose “Do it for me” and we’ll write it to your tradition and finish it within 24 hours.

Thomas Nocera is the founder of Always Your Angel. Read his story.